Gambling addiction can lead to serious emotional, financial and social consequences, which can increase the risk of suicidal thoughts. If you're concerned that someone you care about is struggling with both gambling addiction and suicidal thoughts, it's important to know how you can help. This page gives you advice on how to recognize the signs, start the conversation and offer support.
Signs of suicidal thoughts in people with gambling addiction
Suicidal thoughts can be difficult to detect, especially when the person is hiding their feelings due to shame or guilt. Here are some signs to be aware of:
Extreme financial stress: Losing large sums of money or accumulating debt that feels insurmountable can trigger suicidal thoughts.
Social withdrawal: The person may withdraw from friends, family and activities they used to enjoy, which can be a sign of depression.
Talk about hopelessness or death: They may express feelings of hopelessness or say things like: "It doesn't matter anymore," or "It would be better if I were gone."
Drastic changes in behavior: Excessive gaming activity, irritability or sudden calm after a period of agitation can be warning signs.
How to start the conversation
Talking about suicidal thoughts can be difficult, but it's still necessary. Here are some tips on how to approach the topic:
Start the conversation gently but directly: Don't be afraid to ask directly about suicidal thoughts. It's a myth that this can make the situation worse. On the contrary, it often opens up an important conversation.
Example: "I've noticed that you're struggling at the moment and I'm worried about you. Have you had thoughts of harming yourself?"
Listen without judging: Show empathy and be a supportive listener. Although it can be difficult to hear what they have to say, it's important not to dismiss or minimize their feelings. Avoid saying things like: "It'll be okay soon," or "Aren't you exaggerating a bit now?"
Encourage help: Offer to help them make contact with support services. This could be suggesting a low-threshold service or other organizations you trust to have someone to talk to.
What can you do to support?
Be present: Just being a safe support in everyday life can make a big difference. Offer your time and understanding without pressuring them.
Encourage professional help: Make it clear that professional treatment is available and necessary. You can also offer to accompany them if they need to call a helpline or see a therapist.
Stay in touch: Maintain regular contact. Sometimes knowing that someone is watching and caring can be enough to prevent someone from taking a dangerous step.
Emergency assistance and resources
Call the emergency services - 113
It is important to react quickly if you suspect that someone is in acute danger. Call the emergency services if you fear for someone's life or health. It's better to call once too often than once too little.
Isn't there an acute danger to life?
Contact your general practitioner - your general practitioner has emergency hours during the day. Your GP can provide advice and guidance and, if necessary, will refer you to a psychologist or other treatment options available in your municipality.
Local out-of-hours service - if it is outside your GP's opening hours, you can call your local out-of-hours service 116 117. At the out-of-hours service, you will be able to talk to healthcare professionals who can assess the situation.
On your municipality's website, you will be able to find contact information for other services where you can get help.
Someone to talk to
Kirkens SOS - 22 40 00 40
The most important thing Kirkens SOS can offer is a listening fellow human being, who provides support and comfort in the life situation you are in.
Mentalhelse - 116 123
A free, 24-hour telephone service for anyone who needs someone to talk to.
Everyone in the organization is sworn to secrecy so that you feel safe when you talk to us.
Feel free to contact us on the Helpline or via the contact form.
Frequently asked questions from relatives
How can I know if they are really having suicidal thoughts or if it's just a difficult period?
It's often hard to know for sure, but if you notice major changes in mood, isolation, or that they're talking about death or feeling like a burden, it could be a sign of suicidal thoughts. Even if they don't express it directly, it's always better to ask and show that you're there for them. Take it seriously if you have a suspicion.
What if they get angry or reject me when I ask if they have suicidal thoughts?
It's not uncommon for someone to react with anger or rejection when the topic is brought up, especially if they feel shame or fear. Even if they get angry, it's important to show that you still care and that you're available when they're ready to talk. You can say something like: "I understand this is hard, but I care about you and just want you to know I'm here if you want to talk later."
How can I help them get professional help?
You can offer to make it easier for them by finding contact details for support services, offering to accompany them to an appointment, or setting up an appointment for them. Many people find it difficult to take the first step on their own, so just being there to support them through the process can be a big help.
Can I really make a difference, or is it best to let the professionals handle it?
You can certainly make a difference. While professional help is important, having someone who cares and listens without judgment is often what can give someone hope. Your presence and support can be crucial for the person to contact professional services.
How often should I follow up and how do I avoid pushing too hard?
Follow up regularly, but be careful not to overwhelm the person. It can be as simple as sending a message or calling to check how they're doing. You can ask: "How are you today?" or "Would you like to go for a walk?" The most important thing is to show that you're there without demanding that they open up before they're ready.
What do I do if they say they have a concrete plan to take their own life?
If the person expresses that they have a concrete plan to harm themselves, it is important to act quickly. Contact 113 immediately, or get them to call a crisis service. This is an acute situation that requires immediate help from professionals.
What if the person refuses to acknowledge that they have a gambling problem, but I see signs of it?
Gambling addiction is often characterized by denial, and many people find it difficult to admit to the problem. You can start by expressing your concerns in a calm and supportive way, without accusing them. Say something like: "I've noticed that you've been gambling a lot lately and I'm worried about how it's affecting you." The aim is to open up a conversation, not push them to acknowledge the problem straight away.
Why don't they tell me they are struggling with suicidal thoughts?
Many people who have suicidal thoughts keep it to themselves because of shame, fear of being a burden, or because they feel that no one will understand. They may also be afraid of being judged or misunderstood. Even if they haven't told you directly, it doesn't mean they don't need help. By being open and available, you can make it easier for them to open up when they're ready.
What do I do if I'm also struggling emotionally to help?
Supporting someone struggling with gambling addiction and suicidal thoughts can be emotionally demanding. Remember that you need support too. Talk to someone you trust, or consider contacting a support line for relatives for guidance. It's important that you take care of your own mental health in order to be a good support for others.
Seek support and help
If you or someone you know is showing signs of not feeling well, it's important to seek support and help as soon as possible.
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